How Would Wilson Feel

You know, I haven't been able to shake the idea of Wilson and Chuck. Or, more specifically, what did Wilson feel when Chuck said goodbye. What are some of the emotions, if Wilson were a person and not an aged volleyball, Wilson would have experienced when Chuck chose to continue without him?

I have been "wilsoned" before; I have been close to people who have been "wilsoned". When the act is done within the confines of a caring relationship, being "wilsoned" is easier to stomach. At least, when there exists a healthy element of maturity on both the parts of "Chuck" and "Wilson". The emotions are no less real, though, and still need to be reconciled. Some of the typical emotions resulting from being "wilsoned" are:

• rejection
• inferiority
• insignificance
• insecurity with self
• self-doubt
• distrust
• instability
• emptiness
• guilt

If these are the emotions that being "wilsoned" evokes, how could being "wilsoned" ever occur within the confines of a caring relationship? How could someone who cares for another person so deeply do something so "hurtful"?

It is easy to understand how mean people can "wilson" someone. They either don't care or they get a thrill from being in control or from hurting another person.

But, there are times in any relationship, either with another person or with a thing, where the relationship becomes overwhelming or where the expectations of one are out of whack with those of the other. Keeping that relationship going becomes more of a burden than a thrill. A "have to" instead of a "want to". An obligation, of sorts.

Obligations are a fact of life, but when the obligation is more like a ball and chain, a dread in the pit of the stomach at the thought of it, it is time to "wilson" it, regardless of the negative emotions this action might cause.

In this sense, the benefits outway the action. But, don't think the action comes without payment.

In order to discard Wilson, Chuck had to deal with some emotions of his own. 

The action Chuck chose took courage. But, he paid the price in emotions similar to what Wilson probably felt...only from a different perspective.

The only difference? Chuck had to take the first step. Chuck took the risk. He took the risk from a position of love and appreciation, not of malice or malcontent.

Whether doing or receiving a "wilson", the event is no less painful for either side. If done out of love, maturity, and mutual respect, it can be the best thing that ever happened to either participant.